#20 - 30 Ways To Forget Your Ex

Assalamualaikum :)

Alhamdulillah, hari ni masih berkesempatan untuk update blog for my followers and readers. Thank you sebab still preview blog ni and update dengan story-mory baru keh! Sayang korang <3

Today aku nak share dengan korang on 'Several Ways To Forget Your Ex'. Mostly untuk yang dah berpunya. Article ni sangat berguna untuk korang to avoid cheating on your new gf/bf. Topic yang sangat general. Boleh dikatakan almost everyone pernah menghadapi situasi yang sama. Am I right? Let's check it out!

1. Delete nombor dia. Kalau dia pakai 3 line sekali (Maxis, Celcom, Digi) delete semua. Ingat! jangan simpan.
2. Delete semua messages antara korang. Even dia forward jadual exam sekalipun.
3. Buang semua gambar-gambar dia and gambar korang berdua. 'Semua' meliputi gambar-gambar dalam folder handphone, laptop, dekat wall bilik korang, dalam private box or dalam twitter, fb and other social sites.
4. Simpan / pulangkan semua barang pemberian dia kat korang. Contohnya macam shirt, cap, hadiah, gambar passport dia, etc. Kalau buang rasa jahat pulak kan melainkan korang ni memang betul-betul brutal.
5. Jangan couple dengan orang lain at the same day korang break up because hati tak completely recover because perbuatan tu semata-mata nak hilangkan kesunyian je.
6. Tenangkan hati selama beberapa masa yang boleh.
7. Jangan ada niat nak jumpa dia lagi melainkan secara kebetulan.
8. Unfriend/block dia kat FB. Kalau hati kental, tak payah.
9. Jangan pergi tempat yang korang selalu lepak/dating. Kalau nak pergi, better with family/friends.
10. Sekali-sekala kalau nak enjoy pergi la main roller coaster, jangan shopping sampai berhabis duit sebab semua tu pembaziran. Allah tak suka.
11. Kalau sedih sangat sebab menanggung rindu, menangislah dalam solat. Mengadulah pada Allah.
12. Kalau nak dia bahagia, doakan untuk dia.
13. Jangan simpan dendam/dengki. Allah tak sayang. Ingat! kalau kita buat baik, InsyaAllah in return kita akan dapat ganjaran yang lebih baik.
14. Bagitau family & friends yang kita dah tak ada apa-apa dengan dia. Jangan sebut/ungkit nama dia.
15. Muhasabah diri. Ingatkan diri kita maybe ada hikmah kenapa jodoh korang tak berkekalan.
16. Banyakkan baca artikel yang ke arah islamik. Hopefully, hati kita masih di landasan yang betul.
17. Jangan buat benda bodoh. Contohnya, bunuh diri, kerat nadi, tu memang orang takde otak menyusahkan mak bapak.
18. Kunci pintu bilik, tekup bantal kat muka, jerit kuat-kuat.
19. Buat something/hobi yang kita suka. Contohnya, photography, travelling, mandi air terjun. 
20. Dengar lagu-lagu Maher Zain.
21. Kalau connection okay, bukak Youtube, dengar ceramah agama Ustaz Azhar Idrus. Semua ceramah dia terbaik dari ladang. Jangan lupa follow dia kat fb! hahaha.
22. Sibukkan diri kat rumah/tempat kerja. Kalau student, follow aktiviti2 yang dianjurkan kat Universiti/kolej/sekolah.
23. Baca novel. Kalau takde, pinjam kawan or kat library.
24. Kalau rasa tak boleh simpan sedih sorang-sorang, find someone. Seek for positive advice.
25. Beriadah. Spend 1 hour or two, ajak kawan-kawan main futsal or jogging or nk best lagi, barbeque-ing.
26. Belanja family makan. Sekali-sekala ajaklah dorang makan pizza hut ke, kalau nak save duit bawak dorang pergi makan sate Hj. Samuri.
27. Blogging. This is what I'm doing. Blogging is a way of how you express your feeling, it is an online diary.
28. Be a strong person. Senyumlah even hati kita sedih tanpa siapa pun tahu. Allah knows everything and He always by our side no matter what.
29. Download tumblr yang provide good words/quotes or expression. Print and tampal banyak-banyak dalam bilik. It is a way on how to motivate youself.
30. Time to move on. Find a new girlfriend/boyfriend or maybe tak payah langsung, time to search for future husband/wife! Itu baru betul. Hehe :P

Note of the day : I've tried it all and it works! Selamat mencuba :)

Nervous

Assalamualaikum :)

This is based on my own experience. HAHA. Enjoy :)

What is nervous?

"Nervous tu macam kalau duduk dalam DSG (Dewan Serba Guna/Dewan Sejuk Giler) time final exam, pastu tangan shaking. Bila suruh kawan pegang dia kata tangan kita macam ayam mentah yang dah beku dalam fridge."

When do you usually get nervous?

"Bila nak jumpa Que. Hihi. Err tak-tak, time presentation, Sir Azmir suruh buat public speaking sorang-sorang kat depan. Gila ke ape? malu la :("

Why do you feel nervous?

"Sebab bila diri kat depan semua orang tengok. Pastu kalau ada yang fokus sangat tu, dia tenung je mata kita time present. Tu yang rasa macam ada butterfly dalam perut. Eeee >.<"

What the challenges you face during presentation?

"Topek jahat sebab dia selalu buat muka time orang present. Memang nak gelak rasa. Nyampah gilos!"

"Kadang-kadang bila paparkan kat screen LCD, words tak jelas"

How do you manage to control your nervous?

"Err.. kalau pegang kertas for sure nampak tangan kita menggigil. So kertas letak atas meja. Lantak lah Sir tak dengar suara pun janji cepat habis :P"

"Pandang dinding kat belakang class. Sebab kalau tengok orang, orang macam nak makan kita je"

"Jangan pandang senior-senior kat belakang sebab habis public speaking dorang suka tanya soalan banyak-banyak. Gerammm sangat! Time dorang present kitorang plak bantai tanya soalan banyak-banyak. Padan muka! HAHA. sorry overexcited -_-"

Note of the day : Pengalaman korang lak macam mana? :D

#17 - How To Be Loved By Allah and Everyone ♥

Assalamualaikum :)

Hello everyone! Glad to see you all again. Well, the weather is just nice. The wind blowing smoothly through my face, I feel so calm right now, very calm. Thank you Allah :)

I begin my story for today with a simple question that I bet most people can easily answer it whether YES or NO.

So everyone, do you think you love yourself? Yes? a big NO? or in between? Whatever could be on your mind, it is a big YES for me :) There are many self quotes created by famous authors, celebrities or newsmakers that can enhance your confidence and gain respect to your own self as well as by others. Let me share with you some useful tips .

JUST BE YOU

You know yourself better. You are you and you cannot be someone else. However, if someone motivates you to be better and people keep saying positive things such as "You have changed a lot in your studies. I'm proud of you" or "Babe, you look so confident. How did you manage to overcome your nervous?" or "Hey, you already have 2000 followers on your blog. It seems like you're making a great story ha? keep up the good work", now these were a good self improvement. Just make yourself proud of the inner capabilities that you have. You may not show it now, but practise it slowly. Practise make perfect right? :)

RESPECT YOUR PARENTS

Whoever you are, you must obey what Allah has told you to do; and whoever you are, you are nobody without your parents guidance and support. They have raising you and tought you many things since you were born. They sacrifies everything including financial, education, security and even their heart and soul because they love you more than anything. Sometimes as a daughter/son, you may not know how to show your love to your parents. Maybe you're shy because you thought you have become mature enough and you do not want to act like child, begging for forgiveness once you have done something wrong to them. This is completely wrong because a person who has grown up, they can think wisely. Just bear in your mind, do not talk to them in a rude manner and please avoid sensitive issues that might hurt their feelings. Be visible when they need you because you always seek for their advise at times you are having trouble and difficulties, aren't you? As I told you earlier; whoever you are, be a good one. Respect the older and people also will respect you :)

BE HAPPY & BE KIND TOWARDS OTHERS

This is the most simplest way to be loved by others. Be a counselor. Lend your hand towards those in need, lend your ears and listen to what they wanna share. Give out some useful advice. They will eventually appreciate your kindness. Besides, be happy. This life is too short to be unhappy. Do what you love and you should not always be too overly concerned what others say or feel. But whatever you do, please hold this quote as your guideline, "WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS, FOR THEY BECOME WORDS; WATCH YOUR WORDS, FOR THEY BECOME ACTIONS".

DO NOT NEGLECT THE 5 TIMES PRAYER

As a muslims, we pray five times each day. It is Fajr prayer, Zuhr prayer, Asar prayer, Maghrib prayer and Isya' prayer. Why do we have to do it? These prayers are considered as an obligation for every muslim by the time he/she reaches puberty and it is the second most important of Islam’s five pillars so in any circumstances, we have to do it sincerely if we want to please Him and gain the top ranks of Jannah. At fixed intervals, no matter how busy you are, all of a sudden you have to take out a few minutes and you’re remembering; 'Okay, I must perform my solat first'. Isn't it? If one does not know how to perform the solat, he/she can learn it because Islam's beliefs is easy to understand. It is easy to follow. In addition, each prayer includes a series of movements, supplications, and recitations from the Quran. I can simplify that solat is actually a good way of exercising :)

BE PATIENT, CONTROL YOUR ANGER

When you are having a problem or argue with your family or friends or your bf/gf, do you usually get angry? Mostly people get stressed first because of the pressure he/she felt. It's okay :) If you want to be loved by Allah and others, PLEASE control your anger eventhough you feels like want to kill or burn somebody at that time. Hey, are you as bad as that? Take your wudu'. I hope it can make you calm and cool down. Hehe. If you do not control your temper, it might turn even worse and you are the one who will regret later seriously. Take my words :)

APPRECIATE YOURSELF

Frankly speaking, many people seem to hate themselves because of the lack of beauty that they have. In order to cover the weaknesses, many beauty products were released to market and succeed in persuading these people to try and buy the products, continously. Many advertising medium also did the same. They aimed to gain profits and survive in the competitive market because of the increasing market demand. My question is, why do you have to your waste your money on something that cannot change your confidence level? Take an example, you bought a set of make up and you apply on your face. You feel very beautiful like princess in fairy tales. However, what is your face look like without make up? is it horrible enough to scare everyone? NO. Allah has created you in that way and you were born with your own uniqueness and you should appreciate that. You should be grateful because nobody can copy your originality. You should be proud of that okay :)

DO NOT SMOKE

Lastly, do not smoke. To make it simple, imagine the cigarette is a girl who like to cheat on boys. This girl is bad. Really really bad. Eventhough you love her so much, you adore her and addictive to her, you must take a wise decision. LEAVE HER. If not, you are the one who suffer. If you do not want to leave her, you are so sure you will be just fine, it's alright. You're the dumb one here. Haha. Okay, just joking. Then, connect my example with smoking. You got that? Smoking is bad for health. You already knew that but you still smoking. Very good. The better solution is just focus on something you like to do (other than smoking) and start digging. Set a quit date. Tell your family and friends that you plan to quit. Write down on notes the challenges you'll face while quitting and be patient! Remove cigarettes and other tobacco products from your home, car, and your private places, in case you have. Good luck! :)


Note of the day : Actually, there were abundant of useful tips I wanna share with you guys and girls but I think these information is quite enough to guide you, and my self as well! Hehe. I am pleased to receive any comments and suggestions from all of you. Sorry for my not-so-well english and thank you for reading! :)

#14 - Oh! mama, saya mahu kawen :P

Assalamualaikum :)


Hye blog! Hye Korang! Okay kita straight to the point. Satu statement from iluvislam sangat menarik hati aku untuk memberi pandangan lanjut :)

" Salam, saya nak tanya pandangan para ibu bapa kat sini, tak kira yg senior atau masih muda, sanggup ke korang kahwinkan anak2 korang masa mereka masih lagi berumur 15, 16 hingga 21 tahun, baru je beberapa tahun akil baligh? Sebab saya dapat takwilkan, banyak masalah kegelisahan jiwa anak2 remaja ni dapat dihilangkan apabila kita kahwinkan mereka pada umur ni, jadi tidaklah mereka banyak membuang masa, duit dan tenaga dengan bercinta, mengurat dan entah apa2 lagi yg sewaktu dengannya. Saya sendiri pernah lalui peringkat umur ni, jadi saya faham perasaan mereka. Kalau tuan2 dan puan2 semua nak argue pasal financial responsibility, saya cadangkan kita bantu mereka dari segi family planning, betul2 ajar mereka guna kondom ke, IUD ke, apa2 sahaja yg berkesan mencegah kehamilan, jadi mereka boleh make choices dari segi education dan their life future without any dragging responsibilities. Nanti dah bersedia nak dapat anak waktu pasangan2 muda ni berumur pertengahan atau akhir 20an, atau awal 30an, barulah kita boleh galakkan mereka untuk membina keluarga yg sebenarnya. Sebenarnya amalan begini dah lama diamalkan di negara2 Timur Tengah seperti Saudi, Kuwait dan sebagainya, cuma ia belum menjadi budaya di Malaysia. Yang membudaya di sini ialah budaya percintaan anak2 remaja, yg jika tidak dikawal boleh membawa kepada gejala sosial...... Amacam, parents kat sini apa pandangan korang? Sanggup ke korang berkorban demi ketenangan jiwa anak2 remaja korang? - no name, 2010.


Lately kan, aku selalu terfikir pasal kahwin. I don't know why. Perkara yang aku fikir ni sampai terbawa-bawa kat Facebook and Twitter. Persoalan aku kat sini, SALAH KE KALAU AKU BANGKITKAN ISU TU? Weyh, umur aku dah nak mencecah 20 dah pun, I know how to handle my feelings OK. I’m not ‘menggatal’ but sometimes..... I do. Normal la tu kan? Since ramai blogger yang merancang kahwin muda ni aku pun jadi terpengaruh jugak. Parah sangat dah ni!


Perception dorang buat aku marah ke? Or aku sendiri yang emo? TAK :) Kadang-kadang aku memang take serious perkara macam ni but sometimes aku main-main je. Nak tengok macam mana penerimaan orang lain bila aku bangkitkan isu kahwin muda ni. Seriously, aku memang minat gila kalau cerita bab-bab kahwin ni. Tak tau lah ikut perangai sape either mama or ayah or both or neither of them. Actually aku tak salahkan mak ayah because this feelings hadir dalam diri setiap orang kan? Perasaan ingin dikasihi and mengasihi orang lain. OK jangan bagi aku start jiwang karat kat sini :D


Now, ada sorang member aku advise untuk tanya someone yang lebih pakar dalam hal macam ni. May be sebab dia tengok aku macam desperate sangat nak kahwin kot -.- OK! OK! OK! Itu sangat betul. Only 30% of it. NO! up sket, 50% boleh? HAHA. Whatever it is, aku memang dah rujuk banyak sources regarding this kahwin muda thingy just tak jumpa in person dengan sesiapa lagi. Kalau nak mintak pendapat mak ayah, jawapan dia mak ayah membebel marah balik kat kita. As easy as that. Faham? :D


Therefore, sources aku yang terdekat selepas parents ialahhhhhhhh YOUTUBE :) Guess why? Sebab aku suka dengar ceramah from Ustaz Azhar Idrus. Korang boleh add page dia kat FB kalau ada apa-apa nak tanya. He’s kind of funny and I really like how he delivered the message on what he’s talking about. To some people, the content yang ustaz Azhar sampaikan may be kurang clear sebab loghat Ganu dia pekat sket. Hehe. Tapi aku suka gila kot. Suka sangat :D Aku dah tengok almost all video pasal permasalahan dalam hal nikah kahwin, couple/bercinta and many more yang related. Dari situ, I’ve got some input yang positive andddddd aku try lagi sekali mintak pandangan mama, but! She disagree :( OK enough pujuk mama. Yang penting hati sendiri kena pujuk dulu :)


Tak cukup tengok video kat Youtube, aku search any blogs or trusted website pulak. Macam-macam lah opinion orang ni. Ada kata kahwin awal tu tak bagus, ada kata perkara yang baik jangan di lengah. Personally, aku tak rasa pun salah kalau aku buat decision on my own. Yes! restu mak ayah paling penting dalam hubungan ni tapi kalau fikir-fikir balik, sampai bila nak biar hubungan yang tak sah ni berlanjutan betul tak?


OK, try to put yourself in my shoes. You’re in a relationship with someone and secara tak langsung dah terikat dengan dia. Both of you sangat berharap dapat kekalkan hubungan tu sampai bila-bila. Because you’re madly in love with him/her. Ini yang salah! Nak tau kenapa? Sebab kalau dah sayang mestilah rindu. Kalau berjauhan lagi lagi lagiiiiilah rindu. Perasaan rindu yang membara tu lah sebenarnya yang kita tak nak. Iman manusia ni ada turun naik nya but bila sampai soal hati, lidah tak boleh bohong. Am I right? (macam iklan maggi! HAHA) So korang pun call BF/GF korang, lepas rindu sampai nangis-nangis. Kalau solat nak jumpa Allah time berdoa tu ada korang menangis macam rindu sangat kat BF/GF tak? Ada ke tak? Cuba korang fikir balik. Ada kaitan sebenarnya apa aku nak cakapkan ni :)


Dengan berkahwin je la dapat halalkan segala yang haram. Dapat tutup segala salah silap hubungan kita sesama pasangan tadi. Sebelum ni kalau pegang tangan, bertepuk tampar, bergurau senda yang haram tu bila buat dapat DOSA, tapi bila dah kahwin and bermesra antara suami isteri dapat PAHALA berlipat ganda tau. TAK PERCAYA lagi??


Berdasarkan seruan Rasulullah S.A.W,


 يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم البأءة فليتزوج فاءنه أغض للبصر و أحصن للفرج و من لم يستطع فعليه بااصوم فاءنه له وجاء 


Maksudnya: Wahai pemuda (belia) sesiapa yang mampu dikalangan kamu untuk (berjima) maka berkahwinlah, Sesunguhnya ia menundukkan pandangan kamu, memelihara kemaluanmu (kehormatan) dan bagi sesiapa dikalangan kamu yang tidak mampu dengannya adalah dengan berpuasa. Sesungguhnya ia adalah pencegahnya.


Sekarang dah boleh percaya kan apa aku bagitau tadi? Lihatlah betapa mudahnya Islam ni :) But before that, aku nak ingatkan satu perkara. Biarlah hubungan yang kita bina dengan pasangan kita tu atas dasar nak mencari keredhaan Allah, so berkahwinlah. Kalau setakat nak kahwin sebab tak tahan nafsu or sebab dia kaya or sebab dia hensem/lawa takut kena kebas, aku guarantee even korang kahwin pun mungkin tak kekal lama kalau sikap tu tak diubah. Lagi satu, kalau excited sangat nak kahwin tapi still tak dapat restu mak ayah, jangan amek jalan mudah (Kahwin Lari kat thai/indon sebagainya). Sesungguhnya habuan yang besar sedang menanti orang yang bersabar. So, sabar kay? SABAR! :D


Before this aku ada terbaca satu blog yang mengutarakan isu yang sama, isu kahwin muda jugak. Aku tolong explain apa yang dia kata secara briefly lah kay. Ramai tak setuju kahwin muda ni sebab dari segi economics nya unstable lagi, nak-nak yang belum kerja and full-student pulak tu. Then, kalau si isteri mengandung and at the same time struggling untuk study/tests/quizzes/assignments/final and so on; mungkin membebankan bagi dia. But here is what he said. Bila dah kahwin, rezeki makin murah. Even susah macam mana sekalipun kehidupan dorang, rezeki Allah tetap ada kat mana-mana and pulak tu makin bertambah-tambah. See :) For the mummy pulak, kenapa dia nak rasa susah carry baby dalam perut? Itu kan rezeki Allah and tak ada perasaan yang lebih indah bagi seorang isteri selain mengandungkan zuriat suami dia and itu sangat sweet :) Malah selepas dorang kahwin, semua berubah. Kalau dulu pakai kereta kecik, now dah pakai kereta yang lebih selesa untuk dorang anak-beranak. Dari situ kita tau lah kan both of them memang at the right track and they have chosen the best way to lengthen the relationship by marry early. Alhamdulillah. Ini sebenarnya yang aku and semua pasangan impikan. Betul tak?


Firman Allah swt,


 وأنكحوا الأيامى منكم والصالحين من عبادكم وامائكم ان يكونوا فقراءيغنهم الله من فضله والله واسع عليم 


Maksud: Dan kahwinlah orang-orang bujang diantara kamu dan orang-orang yang layak berkahwin dari hamba yang lelaki dan perempuan. Jika mereka miskin,Allah swt akan memberikan kemampuan kepada mereka dengan kurniaNya. Dan Allah Maha Luas pemberiannya lagi Maha Mengetahui.


Take my words, do the right decision. Kalau cintakan seseorang kerana Allah, InsyaAllah berbahagialah until Jannah :) Yang baik dari Allah, yang sebaliknya dari aku jua. Assalamualaikum and thank you for your time to read this crap. Hehe :D


#Note of the day : Happy New Year Everyone!